Misunderstood Monday: ‘Tis The Season…

Misunderstood Monday: ‘Tis The Season…

Twenty days until Christmas. Everyone is visiting loved ones, shopping and buying gifts for one another. This is a joyous time of year. Everyone working extra hours to get their last minute items while others just simply want to be around their favorite relatives.

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Is it an issue if your significant other doesn’t celebrate holidays?

It is holiday season and we all want to celebrate with our loved ones, and close friends. Halloween has passed it now time for Thanksgiving and before you know it Christmas will be here! When you think of the holidays, for most people gifts isn’t what comes to mind, but memories you can create with special people in your life.

 

If you have a significant other and they don’t celebrate the holidays is this an issue for you? If you’re newly dating and they reveal they don’t celebrate the holidays due to bad experiences or its just not relevant in their lives, is this a deal breaker?

 

 

  1. Bad experiences weren’t made with the new relationship so that person shouldn’t deprive you of creating new memories and acknowledging the holiday.
  2. If the person is religious they are exempt from this topic typically that’s not debatable.
  3. Perhaps there can be a comprise, maybe not exchange gifts but do an activity , spend time over a family members house, go out to dinner.
  4. Although people may say everyday should feel like Valentines Day , most people still want to feel special on that day as well.

Facebook viewer stated:

I would say Christmas b/c it’s a religious holiday so if the person your with doesn’t celebrate it that may be difficult if you’re not equally yoked depending on the reasoning…and I don’t mean celebrate by buying gifts just completely not acknowledge the holiday

 

If your someone whom is family oriented and the holidays are your favorite time of year you may want to include your new boo, significant other to the family and have them apart of the best moments. If your someone whom you’re not close with your family and perhaps you want to create memories within your household of course you’d want your significant other apart of that.

When I ask if this is an issue for you I’m not speaking of gifts, I’m talking about acknowledging the day, the time spent, the memories. Holidays can the times where people feel the most lonely. Why not turn negative into positive and allow yourself to be happy and enjoy the holiday season.

If you’ve never had a valentine before, or if you have had the worst experience ever and don’t want to celebrate Valentine’s Day, maybe things will be different with this new person in your life. Maybe you want to experience having a Valentine for the first time  the lovey dovey , flowers , a card, candlelight dinner. It doesn’t have to be an all expense paid trip with the latest Gucci bag. Yes, everyday in your relationship should feel like Valentines Day but who doesn’t want to feel special on that day as well?

 

Twitter response:

‘cuz holidays are fake x plus we suppose to be the same all year ’round anyway…

Viewers response:

I’m not big on holidays but I do chill with my immediate family.

 

If its a new relationship the shouldn’t bring bad experiences to the table. New relationships deserve to experience everything.

This isn’t about materialistic items this solely about time spent. Share your thoughts below.

Who Wants That Perfect Love Story Anyway

Who Wants That Perfect Love Story Anyway

The ultimate goal in life is to be genuinely happy. A successful career, and a loving family, right? In today’s society, is this realistic? Dig deep..

For me ever since I was a little girl I imagined having my own family. I imagined meeting my soul mate, getting married, having two children and having a successful career or just doing something that I loved. Like most women you have an age bracket of when you expect those things to occur, and then life happens.

When I was in high school I had crushes but I didn’t have a boyfriend until 11th grade and it was just cute and innocent. It wasn’t until I went to college that I experienced what a real relationship was and what being in love felt like. When I date someone or I’m interested in someone I think long-term and that can be a gift and a curse. I’m an overthinker, I think too deeply, it doesn’t allow me to enjoy the moment, being in the ‘now’, but I’m learning. The dating phase tends to be complicated for me and I feel like it shouldn’t be. It’s supposed to be fun getting to know someone , talking on the phone, going on dates, meeting each others friends, etc. Then you have thoughts in the back of your mind like , “what are his/her intentions?”, “how many direct messages do they send out?”, “does he/she go on dates for a free meal?”. just go with the flow, what you’re meant to know, you’ll find out eventually.

When I asked is it realistic to have that family and career in this day and age I mean are people getting married to stay married , are people aware of the amount of work that goes into a successful relationship? The sooner you realize no man or woman is perfect and that everyone has flaws, the better off you’ll be.

Finding your niche and being successful in life isn’t as hard as coming across the ‘one’, we all want someone to go on this journey called ‘life’ with us. “Don’t go looking, let love find you”, is what I hear often. When you’re a woman in your late twenties, you get nervous. You start to ask yourself “will it happen?” , “I see everyone else around me getting married, where’s my king/queen?”. The answer is , “in due time“. 

I have two girlfriends whom are married and I always ask them for advice, one of whom met her mate around the same time my ex and I started dating. Anyway I always admired how both couples kept their relationship between them and never dished out their dirty laundry on social media. When I asked them if they got married too young, they collectively said they just would have paid more attention to the signs. When you’re in love it often blinds you and you are so caught up , things don’t hit the fan until after you’ve been married and a person shows their true colors. Neither regrets their decisions to walk down the aisle but that they just would have taken their time and paid attention to actions.

Social Media isn’t reality and people have so many #relationshipgoals, but what you fail to realize is that they’re not showing you when they argue, or when they are going through their toughest times, and they shouldn’t. You should know that no relationship is perfect. If you have that certain someone in your life where things didn’t work out due to bad timing , or one of you had to do some growing up, there’s nothing wrong with giving that person a second chance, if opportunity presents itself.

No man or woman is perfect but they can be just right for you. If you’ve never experienced being in love, allow yourself to be open to it.

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