At some point in your life you have caught feelings for a friend or that friend may have caught feelings for you. Sometimes it’s mutual and often times it is not mutual. Relationships should begin from being great friends while it may just stay in the friend zone or it may blossom to a long last relationship. Ask yourself can you remain just friends with someone you’re in love with…
First of all I want to say Facebook held me down when I asked this question before posting this blog post. Of course it was majority of female comments but that is okay. All feedback is welcome. I knew that this question would spark some type of dialogue. I first took a poll on Instagram:
Twitter poll 100% everyone said No, absolutely not.
I asked this question because I have been in this situation and it has hindered me from being fully committed and allowing myself to let love in from other people whom I have dated throughout some years. I am going to share some comments from Facebook.
Lol I mean not right away. But in time yea. I guess you’re not still gonna be in love but still have love for that person… Everybody’s different. I can put my feelings to the side and be homies. Sometimes it’s better not to mess up a good friendship. Plus with no sexual or intimate history, easy – Male
No, its hard to keep things in perspective! You have to walk away completely, or the romantic part of the relationship will be rekindled! – Female #1
I DID…I DO…WE HAVE BEEN FRIENDS SINCE OUR RELATIONSHIP…MANY YEARS AGO…ITS JUST TOO SPECIAL NOT TO REMAIN FRIENDS…
I HAVE SOMEONE…HE DOES TOO…but OUR LOVE IS DEEP, and OUR FRIENDSHIP IS FOREVER.. -Female #2
…I’ve tried it with my ex but it just ain’t happening…. smh ? I’m thinking maybe because it’s still fresh but damn…. smh – Female #3
In love…no….love…yes. Huge difference feelings wise. – Female #4
Lmao not at all! That hurts! But I was sharing to say that when you’re in love with someone and try to be their friend it won’t work until y’all had time apart completely like no communication at all. Then you fall out of love and it works lmao – Female #5
From personal experience you can not remain friends with someone whom you’re in love with. Absolutely not. I don’t care if you take time apart and come back with a clear mind and try to be friends. There will always be feelings for that person. When you’re in love with someone those feeling just doesn’t go away and you can’t put time on it. If you do take time off no communication from that person and come back and become friends it won’t be the same.
I feel as though you can not be friends when you’re in love because everything will be bias and you’re going to take things personal. You won’t be able to be a ginuwine friend without making things about you when they come to you for advice.
Stay tuned to episode 8 of the Introverted Single Friend Podcast this Monday as I dig deep!